Victim No More

I've written about the oppressor-oppressed narrative, the socialist competition for victimhood that characterises progressive worldviews which undermine societies. And therefore the need to take responsibility, rather than blame someone else.  - Every time we blame someone else for our responses, we deplete our own power to handle our reactions.
Well, this applies not only at a political level ("the government should"), but also in education ("the school should"), and in personal social skills ("they should").

Here's a brilliant piece from Brooks Gibbs that treats the problem of victimhood by increasing personal skills and responsibility. Not by addressing the oppressor only, but by addressing the "oppressee" - to become a victim-no-more. This is not victim-blaming - this ends the cycle of blame.* 

Watch this: https://www.brooksgibbs.com/crash-play

Take the hour, and take notes. 
Activation - Belief - Consequence.
- I become more flexible with my beliefs about the event. 
- I articulate the event better (are they joking, criticising, bothering, hurting or controlling me.)
- I control my emotional response more thoughtfully, (Will I be mad, sad, bad, or glad.) 
- I choose my words intentionally, towards friendships if possible. 
- I overcome drivers of perfectionism and approvalism, with a stable and secure identity. 

In a world becoming crazier and trapped in conflict, become wiser and freer in one hour.

* Nuance alert: This is about how we think about ourselves. Criminals should still be charged. But will I allow "victim" to become my default identity?